Are you looking for signs that he doesn’t love or care about you?
Let me guess.
You are trying to find 100% proof that he isn’t your love anymore.
You may find yourself searching for signs that he isn’t interested in a relationship anymore.
You also think he might be on the brink of ending your relationship.
How can you tell if he doesn’t love or care about you? Is he actually interested in you?
Look:
You are about to lose your heart if you find out you’re with a man who doesn’t care about you.
It’s better to be happy with yourself than miserable with someone.
If your man doesn’t tick 3 or more of these boxes, he probably doesn’t love you.
Let’s dive in to find out if he’s the right one for us.
1. You are anxious about him and don’t know why.
It’s obvious that if your boyfriend isn’t loving you anymore, there is a strange vibe he transmits to you. You are probably more confused than him right now and your anxiousness is affecting you.
It’s easy to feel as though you’re walking on eggshells, and that you’re about to burst.
You may also be in conflict with your inner self if you refuse to believe that he doesn’t love you anymore.
All of this slowly destroys your sanity and makes you anxious about the future.
2. Your boyfriend isn’t putting any effort into your relationship.
Actually…
For a long time, it was a one-sided relationship.
You know what else?
It’s a feeling of being powerless, tired, and annoyed all at once.
Your relationship is clearly in trouble, but he refuses to do anything about it.
He hasn’t even tried to initiate any of your previous dates (or more), and he doesn’t want to get closer to you.
You two have lost all communication and he is not willing to spend his time with you.
The most important thing is…
3 He doesn’t care anymore about you
Here’s the deal.
A man who loves you deeply cares about how you feel all the time.
Even when he is having problems.
Even when he’s out with friends.
Even when he is entitled to not care.
A man who loves you is there for your needs. No. Matter. What.
Your guy is different. You feel alone and left out by him. He is not there to support you.
This will not surprise you: He doesn’t love anymore.
4. He is distant emotionally
It’s simple.
If a man is in love with you, he will seek out ways to be near you. This is not just about physical touch.
Emotional commitment and closeness are the keys to a fulfilling and strong relationship.
This is where you’ll find out if he really loves you.
Is he distant?
Is he averse to talking to you about things that aren’t his favorite?
Do you feel like he has put a huge wall between you and him, so that no matter how hard your efforts, there is no way to get through it?
This is a red flag that your man doesn’t feel comfortable with you, and may not be interested in you anymore.
5. He claims he needs more space
Ah, the need for space by men.
Space is something we all need!
Even you.
There’s healthy space between people and there’s space where he pulls away.
How do you know if the space that he requires is in the first category?
It all depends on how long you have been together.
Many couples want to spend their first few weeks or months together. After the honeymoon phase, you will need some space for both of your own.
You desire to spend time with your friends and see other people.
Are you willing to be completely honest?
It’s normal for this to happen.
What’s normal about that?
It is not normal to push your partner away constantly. If there’s a good reason, it’s not normal for you to only see one another once a week.
Not answering your messages for hours is not normal.
Pushing you away, calling you clingy, and making you feel guilty about wanting to be with him is not normal. This is manipulation, and it’s a sign that he doesn’t care about your relationship.
However, that’s not all…
6. Your partner doesn’t want you to bother him
This sign can be added to the previous one.
You wouldn’t believe I received an email from a woman stating that her boyfriend did not want to see her more often than once per week.
She was sad because she believed that she loved him and couldn’t understand why they wouldn’t spend more time together.
Do you find yourself in a similar circumstance?
Let me tell you, that’s not okay. Your boyfriend doesn’t value you, he doesn’t respect you, and most importantly, he doesn’t care about your feelings.
Actually…
He uses you.
Communication problems indicate that something is wrong
It is a fact that many relationships and dating coaches have spent thousands of time explaining to us how communication is essential in a relationship.
I have also seen the importance of it in my relationships.
How do you know if your communication problems are serious?
These are the 4 questions you should ask yourself:
Can I talk to him about my problems with 100% confidence?
Does he listen to me?
Do I know what is going on in his private life?
Do our conversations become deeper and more meaningful than they were at the beginning of our relationship?
These answers will let you know if you have communication issues.
If you have any problems, there are many solutions. I’ll show you how to fix them at the end.
8. He never compromises
He doesn’t feel that he must compromise on anything in his life.
This makes you the sole worker in your relationship. You will need to manage your time, make changes, and adapt to your man’s needs.
Why?
Why should you “need to change” or “must accept” him as he is and “don’t bother with him with anything?”
Let me tell you, I don’t like compromises. You don’t either. In fact, nobody does.
They are however one of the most important relationship habits to have in order to build strong relationships.
If he isn’t willing to compromise, he won’t be ready to make an effort in your relationship.
There is one conclusion: he doesn’t care as much about you as you would like.
9. He is angry even when he has no reason to be.
This is one of the most disturbing signs that he doesn’t love you anymore.
It’s also a sign that I wish I didn’t feel it.
My previous relationship, which broke my heart into a million pieces, taught me to be careful about what I said and how I spoke it.
He was angry without any reason. I would stare at him and he would immediately become snappy and push me away.
For almost as long as our relationship lasted, I felt less worthy and less like a woman.
The truth is?
He was not angry at me. He was not angry at me, at least not really.
He was angry at his own actions and confused about his feelings. He made another mistake in his life, and I was there to remind him.
It was sad, but it was true. I was trapped in a toxic relationship.
Are you and your partner constantly angry?
He could have realized that he doesn’t love you, or is on the way to realizing this and doesn’t want to deal with it.
10. He doesn’t require your opinion anymore
He doesn’t have to ask for permission from you. He can do what he likes with his life.
If you’re in a serious relationship or want to be in one, almost all your decisions will have an impact on the other person.
It is obvious that if he decides to quit his job, and you live together, it will have an impact on you. He may start smoking, get into a fight or decide to become vegan.
It doesn’t matter what it is, if the man decides to make a change in his life, it will impact you. That’s perfectly normal. This is why we also call the relationship a partner.
Your company’s CEO (the relationship) is you.
Is your guy oblivious to you when he needs to make a decision about something in his life? Is your guy the first to discover what is going on?
This could be a sign that he doesn’t care about you anymore, and your opinion doesn’t matter to him.
11. He texts other girls
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Seriously!
If he really loves you, why would he do this?
Because he can do what he likes with his life.
Fair enough.
What about you? But where do you stand?
Asserting that it is okay to chat and flirt with other people?
If you don’t feel loved or comfortable in a situation like this, you can pack your bags and get on with your lives. He doesn’t care what your feelings are.
12. He doesn’t have the time to spend with you
It’s true, we are all busy with our lives.
Do you want to find out a secret that your man won’t tell you?
If he loved you deeply, he would take the time to spend with you.
Is he a gamer? He must enjoy playing games.
Do you think he enjoys spending time with friends? He must enjoy his friends.
If we are passionate about doing something or being with someone else, everything in our lives revolves around that idea.
It’s as simple as that.
Take a look at yourself.
Because you care about him, you make time for each other. What is his response? Is he actually interested in you?
13. He hesitates when you tell him that you love him.
It hurts.
It’s not the worst part, I know.
It’s the simple fact that you feel something inside of you when you tell him you love them and then see his hesitation. Every. Time.
Because you know deep down that he doesn’t love you anymore.
There should be no hesitation, pause, or looking away.
Love should be unconditional. Unconditional.
14. He won’t talk about it, and he gets mad
Be honest.
Would you be angry if he came to you and said he wasn’t sure you loved him?
No.
He would be anxious. You could ask him why he felt that way.
If you ask him, why is he so mad?
He hides behind anger to avoid painful conversations.
I will tell you why.
He knows he can’t hide it as well.
He doesn’t care about you anymore and requires time to understand this. Anger and attack are the best defense tactic. He uses it whenever he has to distract attention from the problem.
15. He won’t get in touch with you if you don’t reach him.
Ever wonder why he doesn’t text you in the morning?
Are you curious to find out why he doesn’t call you to tell you how you are doing?
This is the sign that he doesn’t love you. It shouts “disrespect!” so loud it would be absurd to ignore.
Are you curious about the many other ways he disrespects you? This post will show you the 10 most troubling signs of disrespect that you probably ignore.
16. Intimacy is no longer intimate.
Are you finding that your love life becomes colder and more emotionless?
It’s actually still possible to do it and it’s still very nice.
It doesn’t feel as intimate and connected anymore.
It’s cold and you feel it.
Yes, that’s a sign that he doesn’t really have deep feelings for you. He doesn’t love you.
17. He won’t make any plans with you
This is one of the most obvious signs that he doesn’t love you anymore, and I have to admit it…
That’s something I have done.
I was in a relationship with a man and was going to end it when we saw each other. But he kept texting me to remind me that Christmas was coming up. I invented a stupid excuse and hated it. It was only for a few days.
What if your man doesn’t want any plans for the future?
The only reason is that he doesn’t want to share his future with you.
Bonus Sign He isn’t in Love with You Anymore
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One more sign that he doesn’t love you anymore is the most important.
It’s the feeling that you don’t feel loved.
It’s something I have said many times on my blog. I know what it’s like to be loved and how it hurts to not be loved.
You don’t feel loved by him, and you feel abandoned, hurt, and without meaning.
This is the most important sign that you should end your relationship with him. Do not wait for him to make the right decision about your future. Waiting for someone to step up is a waste of precious time.
Want to learn more?
We ignore that little voice in our heads that shouts “Run!” more often than we should. We choose to fight for him, in order to show him that we are worthy of his attention and to force him into accepting us in his own life.
To be certain he doesn’t love us, we search for evidence.
He does.
Are you right?
Comment below if you have signs that he isn’t loving you anymore
Be strong. As someone who has been through this, I can tell you that there is someone out there who wants to help you love yourself.
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