Dr. Gary Chapman introduced the concept of the “five love languages” in his 1995 book of the same name. If you need to learn more about what they are, our blog piece on the subject has already been written for you. So, now that you’ve caught up, it’s time to learn your partner’s love language so you can express yourself more effectively.
It’s going to be a little bit to a lot different depending on the person. Love languages can be absurd to some, but to others, they are entirely normal. It may take some extra effort from both of you if you and your spouse aren’t on the same page at the beginning.
A partnership in which both individuals can fully comprehend and grow together is, in our opinion, one of the most rewarding things in life. To help you better understand each other, we’ve even created a full-fledged card game for couples, complete with rules and everything! How much we believe in the necessity of having a healthy relationship is demonstrated by this statement.
Let’s get down to the nitty-gritty of how to communicate through your partner’s preferred form of communication.
If You Know Which One It Is
By now, we may presume you have at least a “suspicion” about how your partner prefers to express love after reading our blog post on what the five languages are. In that case, why not speak with them directly and get their thoughts on the matter?
The foundation of a happy relationship is open and honest communication; if that foundation is unstable, then so will everything else placed on top of it. Having a heart-to-heart conversation with your loved one is all you need to do.
But I’d Rather Surprise Them Than Let Them Guess!
In order to keep the romance alive in your relationship, it’s perfectly acceptable to make a tiny or spectacular gesture of love as a first step.
As a reminder, here are a few things to keep an eye out for:
How much delight does your partner get out of receiving compliments, regardless of the subject matter? They seem to take things more personally or bounce back from insults more quickly than other people. Words of affirmation are likely to be a major part of their love language. Don’t be afraid to compliment them on anything they care about!
Do they prefer to show you how much they care about you rather than tell you? To what extent do they try to alleviate your daily burdens, or do they go out of their way to do so? That’s a telltale sign that their preferred love language is service. Do the same thing for them!
Your partner may give you a “little attention” from time to time. Maybe it’s a chocolate bar or a flower that you adore? Is it possible that they have a habit of taking you to the same restaurant twice a week? Giving and receiving gifts is an important part of expressing love to someone. No, you don’t have to spend a lot of money on fancy gifts for them. Just pick something they’ll enjoy.
Does your partner always strive to spend their leisure time with you, even if their day is very hectic? They seem most content when you two are alone, strolling in the park or having lunch and catching up on life’s little pleasures. As much as possible, include them in your plans whenever possible. They may prefer quality time. Before you leave the house, do you always get a kiss on the cheek? Do you and your spouse have a habit of holding hands when you’re on a date or on a walk? Do you and your partner give each other lots of hugs? If this is the case, your partner’s love language may be physical touch.
If you want to communicate in your partner’s native tongue, this is the way to go. Even while it isn’t an exact science because their preferences are most likely a combination of the above, with one predominating, you’ll be just fine if you follow the guidelines!
Again, we strongly recommend that you have an in-depth discussion with them. In the long run, you’ll both be happy about it!